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Question I've married 4 years ago, and I have a 3 years old daughter.  My wife is not interested in sex at all.  We've tried several doctors but [with] no progress.  I do masturbate a lot, which caused some bad effects but I can't stop as we live in Canada, where you can't marry more than one wife.  Is this a good reason to marry a second wife, or is there any other solution to my problem? Answer Praise be to Allaah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger. I ask Allaah to help you, my brother, to cope with this problem which you are suffering from, and which has to do with the mother of your daughter, the closest of people to you. I would like to make three points to you: 1. You are permitted to enjoy your wife in any of the ways which Allaah has permitted to you. This includes masturbation by her hand. 2. The reason you have mentioned in your question is sufficient grounds for taking another wife. 3. If you can find no other solution to this problem except di...

Question Please accept my apology if this questions offends, but in the pursuit of Islamic knowledge, we cannot afford to be shy for fear that if we are not well advised, we may commit a sin. I have been advised by a friend that there is a "qawl" (opinion) among some ulamaa' (scholars) that it is permissible to conduct anal sex (anal penetration) (between man and wife only) during the time of the wife's haydh (menstruation). Is this correct? Please also advise the laws and penalties relevant to it. Answer Praise be to Allah. Your apology is accepted. Striving to understand the rulings of Sharee'ah in this and similar matters is not haraam or shameful; it is necessary. As regards your question, anal intercourse with one's wife is a major sin, whether it occurs at the time of menstruation or not. The Prophet SAWS (Peace & Blessings of Allah be upon Him) cursed the one who does this: "Cursed is the one who approaches his wife in her rectum" (Reporte...

Question If a husband has sex with his wife every four (on a constant basis) months but it does not fulfill the woman's sexual needs, then is there any Islamic recourse that a woman can take concerning this matter? Is it fair that a man can have sex with his wife everyday but the wife can only have sex every four months with her husband? (after all it is not like she can marry another man to satisfy her needs, but her husband has ample room to satisfy his needs). Answer Praise be to Allah.  This action is undoubtedly wrong, and it is contrary to good treatment of one's wife. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “and live with them honourably” [al-Nisa 4:19] “And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable” [al-Baqarah 2:228] And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The best of you are those who are best to their wi...

Question Please help me for fining the truth.In Bukhari sharif hadesh no-4170 & 4171, said that anal sex is halal/jayaj. But you said (in mail a & q) that its haram.Now i'm confusied. I want to know what's the truth? Is anal sex haram or not?please response my question. Answer Praise be to Allaah. Firstly: There are many saheeh ahaadeeth which show that anal intercourse is haraam, such as the following: 1 – It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The one who has intercourse with his wife in her back passage has disavowed himself of that which was revealed to Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).” Narrated by Abu Dawood (3904); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. 2 – It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah will not look ...

Question Is it permissible to have sex during Ramadan. Can we have sex in the night and take bath before doing the sahar Answer Praise be to Allaah. Firstly: Intercourse during the day in Ramadaan is haraam for men and women alike, who are obliged to fast during the day. Doing that is a sin for which expiation (kafaarah) must be offered. The kafaarah is to free a slave; if that is not possible then the person must fast for two consecutive months; whoever is not able to do that must feed sixty poor persons. It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: Whilst we were sitting with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), a man came to him and said, “O Messenger of Allaah, I am doomed!” He said, “What happened?” He said, “I had intercourse with my wife when I was fasting [in Ramadaan].” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Are you able to free a slave?” He said, “No.” He said, “Are you able to fast for two co...