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Question I am in a relationship with a man who took my virginity. I repented from such evil deeds and ask Allah to accept my repentance. This man proposed to me, but he is not religious, he smokes cigarettes and hashish and drinks alcohol. What should I do, he knows my matter. Or shall I leave him and have a hymen repair operation done and marry a religious man? I was pregnant and I aborted the baby. Allah knows how sincere my repentance is. Answer Praise be to Allaah. Firstly: Zina (fornication or adultery) is a major sin. Allaah has forbidden doing the things that lead to it and has prescribed the hadd punishment for the one who does it, and He has warned adulterers of punishment in the Hereafter. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah forgives him” [al-Isra’ 17:32]. Ibn Jareer al-Tabari (may Allaah have me...

Question I got married about five months ago and intercourse with my wife was difficult at first, but she did not bleed until now. I do not know if she was a virgin or if something happened that I do not know about – Allaah forbid – especially since she was engaged before I got to know her, to a young man who is known for his immoral ways such as drinking, taking drugs and committing zina.  Please advise us, may Allaah reward you. I do not want to wrong or be wronged, but the Shaytaan is not leaving me alone. Answer Praise be to Allaah. Firstly: You should note that the shaytaan is extremely keen to cause division between a man and his wife. It is narrated in a saheeh report that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Iblees places his throne on the water, then he sends out his troops, and those who are the closest in status to him are those who cause the most tribulation (fitnah). One of them comes and says, ‘I did such and such,’ and he says, ‘You have not...